Finding Love
Some people have no issues when finding love. Others seem to search their whole life and cannot find the one that makes their heart sing. Why it is so easy for some and so hard for others is a mystery. Because people are unique, their problems are just as unique, and finding love might be a matter of knowing where to look, or not knowing what you really want in the first place. You can meet a lot of people, but if you truly don’t know what you are looking for in another person, you can’t possibly know when you have met someone who could indeed be the one you want to love for the rest of your life.
Finding love used to be a matter of knowing the right people. Friends are often great ways to meet new people. When friends introduce you to someone, the battle of finding love is half over. If your friends know you well enough, they are going to hook you up with people they think you are going to like. If they keep striking out, however, you need to strike out on your own. You can go to bars, but finding love this way is hard. Many people in bars are looking for something less than a lifetime, and quite often the atmosphere in a bar is not conducive to finding love meant to last a lifetime.
There are many finding love on the Internet today, and the choices you have are more numerous than ever. It used to be something no one talked about, but today, people are more open about finding love online, and they are encouraging their single friends to do the same. The shame once associated with finding love this way is gone, and some very attractive and successful people are going about finding someone this way. If you sign up for an online dating site, you aren’t going to run into a pack of losers. You may find exactly what you are looking for in another person.
If you want to find love, look through a few dating sites before you commit. Some sites are free, but you might find more security in a site that has a subscription fee. Look through some of the profiles, and see how the site works before you sign up, and don’t be afraid to sign up for more than one if you so choose. Be honest about who you are when filling out your profile and don’t use someone else’s picture. Finding love has everything to do with honesty, and if someone contacts you based on false information in your profile, it is never going to work out.
Monday, April 28, 2008
How To Attract Women
Many men want to know how to attract women, as if there is some trick to it. They tend to think of attractive women as some sort of commodity. They don't even feel like men unless they have a gorgeous woman at their beck and call. Most of these guys suffer from terribly low self-esteem. Their entire sense of self-worth is based on dating attractive women, and generally they are single. Therefore, they think of themselves as nothing, or even less than nothing.
The best way to start dating beautiful women is to realize that there is no secret. Don't try to figure out how to attract women, just try to figure out how to be yourself. People with low self-esteem tend to be plagued by problems and insecurities in almost every aspect of their life. They will wonder how to attract women, how to get a good job, how to succeed in life and love, and yet never managed to do any of these things. The secret is not pheromones to attract women, psychological tricks, or any of that nonsense. The secret is simply to have faith in yourself.
I used to not even know how to approach women. They were like the Holy Grail to me. Sure, now and then I would end up on drunken hookups, or go on dates with friends of friends, but in general my self-esteem was terrible, and so was my track record. I tried every trick in the book, but still had no idea how to attract women. I was starting to give in to despair, and believed that I would never find happiness or love.
For me, success only came when I gave up worrying about how to attract women. Instead, I worried about how to be happy with myself. I dedicated myself to the principle that happiness comes not from outside, but from inside. I examined all of the factors in my life, all of the things that I cared about and the things that made me happy. I deepened and enriched my friendships, pursued my creative hobbies, and got in to see a therapist to tackle my low self-esteem. It worked wonders. Now I do not have to worry about how to attract women. I have a beautiful girlfriend who loves me very much. Once I thought of myself as attractive, women began to feel the same way about me. The rest is history.
The best way to start dating beautiful women is to realize that there is no secret. Don't try to figure out how to attract women, just try to figure out how to be yourself. People with low self-esteem tend to be plagued by problems and insecurities in almost every aspect of their life. They will wonder how to attract women, how to get a good job, how to succeed in life and love, and yet never managed to do any of these things. The secret is not pheromones to attract women, psychological tricks, or any of that nonsense. The secret is simply to have faith in yourself.
I used to not even know how to approach women. They were like the Holy Grail to me. Sure, now and then I would end up on drunken hookups, or go on dates with friends of friends, but in general my self-esteem was terrible, and so was my track record. I tried every trick in the book, but still had no idea how to attract women. I was starting to give in to despair, and believed that I would never find happiness or love.
For me, success only came when I gave up worrying about how to attract women. Instead, I worried about how to be happy with myself. I dedicated myself to the principle that happiness comes not from outside, but from inside. I examined all of the factors in my life, all of the things that I cared about and the things that made me happy. I deepened and enriched my friendships, pursued my creative hobbies, and got in to see a therapist to tackle my low self-esteem. It worked wonders. Now I do not have to worry about how to attract women. I have a beautiful girlfriend who loves me very much. Once I thought of myself as attractive, women began to feel the same way about me. The rest is history.
Thursday, March 27, 2008
Prevention And Warning Signals For Bad Dating Services
Ever been in a situation where your romantic dreams are knocking on your door waiting to be fulfilled, but then suddenly something happens! Something has just bundled them off on a roller coaster. Now you are left with a huge chunk of bills and a cartful of dreams! Welcome to the world of bad dating services! Fortunately you can jump off the bandwagon of a bad dating service if you read the warning signals right.
Check before you leap
That's correct - don't rush headlong into any dating service just for the fun or challenge of it. Rein in your desires and do some background checking.
• What sort of reputation does it have?
• What sort of success rate does it have?
• Have any of your friends, relatives or colleagues used this service before? What do they say about it?
It's all about the Green
No, we're not talking about environment folks! Face it, dating services exist to make money. But some concentrate only on the money and push the rest of their job function under the carpet. You need to pull it out from under the carpet and make sure your dating service delivers. Make sure the bargain is kept in full - you pay the cash and the service provides you with quality dating services!
Protect your own
Don't worry! You don't have to beat your chest and roar to protect your cash! You merely have to exercise caution when dealing with your money! Money is valuable and when it's your own money, it is precious!
• Read the contract and privacy clauses of the service
• Always pay by check and never by credit card - this way the service cannot hitch a free ride and charge your card for services not rendered
• Keep records of your monthly charges
• Keep in touch with a customer service representative who handles complaints
If you cannot do this - leave now and save yourself a lot of trouble!
Uneasy communication
Does your service send out your email to every visitor? If yes, get out of the contract before it is too late! Sending your email address indiscriminately to anyone without your permission violates your privacy. It also exposes your email system to spam and virus.
Dating scams
Bad dating sites do not check potential dates. Sometimes the service works with a scamster to rip you off. The service hooks you up with an attractive date that gets to know you. You like your date and things go well. But then there is a roadblock - your date starts making excuses about not wanting to meet you and then emails you asking you for money for a personal reason. Don't give in and part with your cash - this is a scam and you must save yourself. Leave the service now!
A bad dating service resembles a deathly whirlpool where there is every chance of being sucked in. The trick is to detect the signs and jump out before the whirling starts.
Check before you leap
That's correct - don't rush headlong into any dating service just for the fun or challenge of it. Rein in your desires and do some background checking.
• What sort of reputation does it have?
• What sort of success rate does it have?
• Have any of your friends, relatives or colleagues used this service before? What do they say about it?
It's all about the Green
No, we're not talking about environment folks! Face it, dating services exist to make money. But some concentrate only on the money and push the rest of their job function under the carpet. You need to pull it out from under the carpet and make sure your dating service delivers. Make sure the bargain is kept in full - you pay the cash and the service provides you with quality dating services!
Protect your own
Don't worry! You don't have to beat your chest and roar to protect your cash! You merely have to exercise caution when dealing with your money! Money is valuable and when it's your own money, it is precious!
• Read the contract and privacy clauses of the service
• Always pay by check and never by credit card - this way the service cannot hitch a free ride and charge your card for services not rendered
• Keep records of your monthly charges
• Keep in touch with a customer service representative who handles complaints
If you cannot do this - leave now and save yourself a lot of trouble!
Uneasy communication
Does your service send out your email to every visitor? If yes, get out of the contract before it is too late! Sending your email address indiscriminately to anyone without your permission violates your privacy. It also exposes your email system to spam and virus.
Dating scams
Bad dating sites do not check potential dates. Sometimes the service works with a scamster to rip you off. The service hooks you up with an attractive date that gets to know you. You like your date and things go well. But then there is a roadblock - your date starts making excuses about not wanting to meet you and then emails you asking you for money for a personal reason. Don't give in and part with your cash - this is a scam and you must save yourself. Leave the service now!
A bad dating service resembles a deathly whirlpool where there is every chance of being sucked in. The trick is to detect the signs and jump out before the whirling starts.
Questions Related To Relationships And Dating
Long-term relationships fail for many reasons, but one of the most common is incompatibility in important areas of your life. It’s all too easy to overlook major differences in the first bloom of love, but will the traits and beliefs that seem endearing in the first months of a new relationship still be acceptable in five, ten, or forty years?
The sad thing is that a painful breakup could have been avoided, simply by having an honest discussion of important issues before the relationship got too deep. If you take a hard look at the ways you differ from your new flame, you can spare yourself a broken heart and a lot of time down the road. Here are five questions that you should ask yourself before your relationship gets too serious.
1. Are Our Politics Compatible?
Politics is an issue which is often ignored in the early stages of a relationship. Who wants to think about global warming when you could be planning a romantic getaway? However, people tend to be passionate about their political beliefs, and differing views can cause relationships to explode. Falling in love with people who share your political tendencies will make a smoother road to travel in the future.
2. Are Our Religious Views Compatible?
Opposing religious views might work out for two adults who respect one another, even if you do have difficulty reconciling your agnostic views with his dedication to spending Sunday mornings in church. However, they can become a strain in a long term relationship, especially if you plan to have children.
3. Are Our Patterns of Communication Compatible?
Some couples frequently flare up at each other, shouting and yelling over every little problem – only to be doting on each other five minutes later. Others would be badly hurt, preferring to discuss disagreements calmly and peaceably. Difficulties often arise when communication patterns within the relationship vary widely.
4. Do We Have Similar Visions of the Future?
When you first fall in love, all you can think about is the next time that you can see your new flame again. However, this is the best time to consider the future as well. If you’ve always dreamed of children and she doesn’t want them, or you envision spending your life in the country while he wants the glamour of city life, it will be difficult to combine your differing views into a comfortable life together.
5. Do We Have Similar Ideas About Love?
Everybody has different ideas about how people who are in love should act. Perhaps you show your affection through your actions instead of your words, or you want your independence while your lover wants to spend all your spare time together. The more compatible these opinions, the easier your life together will be.
With love, honest communication, and respect, any of these differences may be overcome. However, knowing the areas in which you and your new love are not a perfect fit will allow you to address these issues early on. If you are not able to come to an agreement, you will know that the relationship will not work before it is too late.
The sad thing is that a painful breakup could have been avoided, simply by having an honest discussion of important issues before the relationship got too deep. If you take a hard look at the ways you differ from your new flame, you can spare yourself a broken heart and a lot of time down the road. Here are five questions that you should ask yourself before your relationship gets too serious.
1. Are Our Politics Compatible?
Politics is an issue which is often ignored in the early stages of a relationship. Who wants to think about global warming when you could be planning a romantic getaway? However, people tend to be passionate about their political beliefs, and differing views can cause relationships to explode. Falling in love with people who share your political tendencies will make a smoother road to travel in the future.
2. Are Our Religious Views Compatible?
Opposing religious views might work out for two adults who respect one another, even if you do have difficulty reconciling your agnostic views with his dedication to spending Sunday mornings in church. However, they can become a strain in a long term relationship, especially if you plan to have children.
3. Are Our Patterns of Communication Compatible?
Some couples frequently flare up at each other, shouting and yelling over every little problem – only to be doting on each other five minutes later. Others would be badly hurt, preferring to discuss disagreements calmly and peaceably. Difficulties often arise when communication patterns within the relationship vary widely.
4. Do We Have Similar Visions of the Future?
When you first fall in love, all you can think about is the next time that you can see your new flame again. However, this is the best time to consider the future as well. If you’ve always dreamed of children and she doesn’t want them, or you envision spending your life in the country while he wants the glamour of city life, it will be difficult to combine your differing views into a comfortable life together.
5. Do We Have Similar Ideas About Love?
Everybody has different ideas about how people who are in love should act. Perhaps you show your affection through your actions instead of your words, or you want your independence while your lover wants to spend all your spare time together. The more compatible these opinions, the easier your life together will be.
With love, honest communication, and respect, any of these differences may be overcome. However, knowing the areas in which you and your new love are not a perfect fit will allow you to address these issues early on. If you are not able to come to an agreement, you will know that the relationship will not work before it is too late.
Tuesday, March 25, 2008
Dating Tips
Dating Tips
If you are looking for dating tips, be careful where you go to get it. Quite honestly I have seen a lot of advice out there that is hopelessly invalid and totally unrealistic. Though there are some great tips out there, there are some that are written purely for about three percent of the population. The rest of the people on the planet are apparently on their own. I guess sometimes the tips are made to sell magazines, but I have never known anyone who had a life that might entail the need for these tips.
Most women’s magazines will give you a ton of dating tips each month. They are high unrealistic though, and are not written for the average woman. You have to laugh when you read them. I used to read them all the time, and I could never find anything that would have helped me, or any of my friends in the dating world for that matter. It’s almost laughable, and it makes me wonder what these people writing these dating tips are thinking.
For the best dating tips, you want to talk to real people. This is one big benefit of having friends who love you. They may not always have the best dating tips, but you can be sure they have your best interests at heart. Even if it is hard for them to tell you that someone may be playing them, or that someone is just not right for them, they will get around to doing it. Those are the dating tips that really count. It won’t matter how you look or if you say the right thing if you are involved with someone who might hurt you in any way.
If you don’t have any single friends, you may have a hard time getting good dating tips, but you can still find some good ones if you look online. You can find others your age that are going through what you are, and they may have some great advice for you. There are some in the magazines that might be valid dating tips, but make sure you get input from real women who are out there going through what you are. Nothing beats real life experience, and that is especially true when it comes to dating. There are great people writing great dating tips out there, but some are thrown in for a sensationalistic touch, or perhaps for the glamour.
If you are looking for dating tips, be careful where you go to get it. Quite honestly I have seen a lot of advice out there that is hopelessly invalid and totally unrealistic. Though there are some great tips out there, there are some that are written purely for about three percent of the population. The rest of the people on the planet are apparently on their own. I guess sometimes the tips are made to sell magazines, but I have never known anyone who had a life that might entail the need for these tips.
Most women’s magazines will give you a ton of dating tips each month. They are high unrealistic though, and are not written for the average woman. You have to laugh when you read them. I used to read them all the time, and I could never find anything that would have helped me, or any of my friends in the dating world for that matter. It’s almost laughable, and it makes me wonder what these people writing these dating tips are thinking.
For the best dating tips, you want to talk to real people. This is one big benefit of having friends who love you. They may not always have the best dating tips, but you can be sure they have your best interests at heart. Even if it is hard for them to tell you that someone may be playing them, or that someone is just not right for them, they will get around to doing it. Those are the dating tips that really count. It won’t matter how you look or if you say the right thing if you are involved with someone who might hurt you in any way.
If you don’t have any single friends, you may have a hard time getting good dating tips, but you can still find some good ones if you look online. You can find others your age that are going through what you are, and they may have some great advice for you. There are some in the magazines that might be valid dating tips, but make sure you get input from real women who are out there going through what you are. Nothing beats real life experience, and that is especially true when it comes to dating. There are great people writing great dating tips out there, but some are thrown in for a sensationalistic touch, or perhaps for the glamour.
Blind Dates
Blind Dates
I have never been on blind dates before, but I do have friends that have. Though there are some horror stories out there about these dates, there are some success stories too. When you go on a blind date you might want to remember that this might either be the very best date of your life, or it might end up being the very worst. Hopefully you have not put your dating life into the hands of people who are going to make bad choices for you, but sometimes even though with the best of intentions will miss the mark completely.
Usually blind dates are set up by well meaning friends. These friends are just sure the two of you are perfect for each other, but you may not be so sure. You may be leery of meeting men (or women) this way, but it can be a great thing. I guess you should probably decide how sensible your friends are before you let them set you up. Before you go on any blind dates, make sure you find out why they think you will like each other. If they are going on looks alone, you may not want to go. Make sure there is a deeper interest that you might share.
Some blind dates miss the mark so badly that you wonder what your friends were thinking. They may not have been, or they may have just been wrong. Even two people who work on paper can be a huge mismatch in person. When you accept a date from someone you meet you have already felt some sort of chemistry or you wouldn’t be going. You don’t have that to go by when you agree to blind dates. That’s why there are so many problems.
For as long as there are single people on earth friends will be trying to send friends on blind dates. If you are thinking of allowing your friends to set you up, make sure you give them some ground rules to go by, or they might set you up with someone you will have interest in. Just make sure they have more reasons for setting you up than the line, “But he’s cute!” Movies about blind dates gone wrong are really funny because there is an element of truth in there somewhere. If you have ever gone on a bad date, or know someone who has, you can truly appreciate the real life humor involved.
I have never been on blind dates before, but I do have friends that have. Though there are some horror stories out there about these dates, there are some success stories too. When you go on a blind date you might want to remember that this might either be the very best date of your life, or it might end up being the very worst. Hopefully you have not put your dating life into the hands of people who are going to make bad choices for you, but sometimes even though with the best of intentions will miss the mark completely.
Usually blind dates are set up by well meaning friends. These friends are just sure the two of you are perfect for each other, but you may not be so sure. You may be leery of meeting men (or women) this way, but it can be a great thing. I guess you should probably decide how sensible your friends are before you let them set you up. Before you go on any blind dates, make sure you find out why they think you will like each other. If they are going on looks alone, you may not want to go. Make sure there is a deeper interest that you might share.
Some blind dates miss the mark so badly that you wonder what your friends were thinking. They may not have been, or they may have just been wrong. Even two people who work on paper can be a huge mismatch in person. When you accept a date from someone you meet you have already felt some sort of chemistry or you wouldn’t be going. You don’t have that to go by when you agree to blind dates. That’s why there are so many problems.
For as long as there are single people on earth friends will be trying to send friends on blind dates. If you are thinking of allowing your friends to set you up, make sure you give them some ground rules to go by, or they might set you up with someone you will have interest in. Just make sure they have more reasons for setting you up than the line, “But he’s cute!” Movies about blind dates gone wrong are really funny because there is an element of truth in there somewhere. If you have ever gone on a bad date, or know someone who has, you can truly appreciate the real life humor involved.
Tuesday, March 4, 2008
Romantic Dating Advice For Adults
Sure dating is easy for kids to do, but what about adults? You thought you were nervous as a teenager? Well as you get older, it seems dating not only gets harder, but you get more nervous and more anxious. Well here are a few dating tips you can use and remember easily to help you get over your fears, and find the perfect someone.
Always make sure you dress to impress, but don't over do it. Comfort and style, all in one. Maybe for women a nice long skirt with a low cut shirt, and for men a comfortable pair of trousers with a stylish collar golf t-shirt. This will make the date seem casual, yet personal. Causal allows you to talk about a wider range of topics, and to feel more comfortable, and personal lets everyone around you know you are on a date.
Keep up-to-date on your current events, so you will have something to talk about. Also, ensure you are in the know about all the adult health concerns that are around these days. Safety first, of course.
Plan a date that starts earlier on in the evening, or maybe even the afternoon. As a teenager, dates will usually take place at night, but as an adult, you want to get to know this person more than just a fling. This is why afternoon or early evening dating is so important. Get to know your partner in daylight where you can see them for who they really are.
Do something fun. Go bowling, or play pool. An activity where she gets the chance to be cute and bubbly, and something where he gets the chance to help her out if she needs it! Also, an activity where communication will occur and maybe even some laughing and jokes! A date like a movie won't go over very well for adults as you need to talk to each other to get to know each other!
Don't forget, even though you are adults, you're not dead either! Go dancing, have a few drinks, and share many romantic nights! If the date does happened to follow back to your place, then so be it! Have fun with it, and be sure to make it a very comfortable encounter for both of you. May be best to clean up before you go on your date.
Cook your guest breakfast in the morning. This is a great way of telling them they are welcome in your home, and you really enjoyed having them there. This way there is no awkwardness in the morning, just smiles! Your date will most likely call back if they are comfortable.
These are just a few dating tips for the older crowd. Keep it cool and have a good time. If it works out, then it great! If not, then it must not have meant to be. Enjoy dating and enjoy each other. Stick to people who have things in common with you, and will can't loose!
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