Finding Love
Some people have no issues when finding love. Others seem to search their whole life and cannot find the one that makes their heart sing. Why it is so easy for some and so hard for others is a mystery. Because people are unique, their problems are just as unique, and finding love might be a matter of knowing where to look, or not knowing what you really want in the first place. You can meet a lot of people, but if you truly don’t know what you are looking for in another person, you can’t possibly know when you have met someone who could indeed be the one you want to love for the rest of your life.
Finding love used to be a matter of knowing the right people. Friends are often great ways to meet new people. When friends introduce you to someone, the battle of finding love is half over. If your friends know you well enough, they are going to hook you up with people they think you are going to like. If they keep striking out, however, you need to strike out on your own. You can go to bars, but finding love this way is hard. Many people in bars are looking for something less than a lifetime, and quite often the atmosphere in a bar is not conducive to finding love meant to last a lifetime.
There are many finding love on the Internet today, and the choices you have are more numerous than ever. It used to be something no one talked about, but today, people are more open about finding love online, and they are encouraging their single friends to do the same. The shame once associated with finding love this way is gone, and some very attractive and successful people are going about finding someone this way. If you sign up for an online dating site, you aren’t going to run into a pack of losers. You may find exactly what you are looking for in another person.
If you want to find love, look through a few dating sites before you commit. Some sites are free, but you might find more security in a site that has a subscription fee. Look through some of the profiles, and see how the site works before you sign up, and don’t be afraid to sign up for more than one if you so choose. Be honest about who you are when filling out your profile and don’t use someone else’s picture. Finding love has everything to do with honesty, and if someone contacts you based on false information in your profile, it is never going to work out.
Monday, April 28, 2008
How To Attract Women
Many men want to know how to attract women, as if there is some trick to it. They tend to think of attractive women as some sort of commodity. They don't even feel like men unless they have a gorgeous woman at their beck and call. Most of these guys suffer from terribly low self-esteem. Their entire sense of self-worth is based on dating attractive women, and generally they are single. Therefore, they think of themselves as nothing, or even less than nothing.
The best way to start dating beautiful women is to realize that there is no secret. Don't try to figure out how to attract women, just try to figure out how to be yourself. People with low self-esteem tend to be plagued by problems and insecurities in almost every aspect of their life. They will wonder how to attract women, how to get a good job, how to succeed in life and love, and yet never managed to do any of these things. The secret is not pheromones to attract women, psychological tricks, or any of that nonsense. The secret is simply to have faith in yourself.
I used to not even know how to approach women. They were like the Holy Grail to me. Sure, now and then I would end up on drunken hookups, or go on dates with friends of friends, but in general my self-esteem was terrible, and so was my track record. I tried every trick in the book, but still had no idea how to attract women. I was starting to give in to despair, and believed that I would never find happiness or love.
For me, success only came when I gave up worrying about how to attract women. Instead, I worried about how to be happy with myself. I dedicated myself to the principle that happiness comes not from outside, but from inside. I examined all of the factors in my life, all of the things that I cared about and the things that made me happy. I deepened and enriched my friendships, pursued my creative hobbies, and got in to see a therapist to tackle my low self-esteem. It worked wonders. Now I do not have to worry about how to attract women. I have a beautiful girlfriend who loves me very much. Once I thought of myself as attractive, women began to feel the same way about me. The rest is history.
The best way to start dating beautiful women is to realize that there is no secret. Don't try to figure out how to attract women, just try to figure out how to be yourself. People with low self-esteem tend to be plagued by problems and insecurities in almost every aspect of their life. They will wonder how to attract women, how to get a good job, how to succeed in life and love, and yet never managed to do any of these things. The secret is not pheromones to attract women, psychological tricks, or any of that nonsense. The secret is simply to have faith in yourself.
I used to not even know how to approach women. They were like the Holy Grail to me. Sure, now and then I would end up on drunken hookups, or go on dates with friends of friends, but in general my self-esteem was terrible, and so was my track record. I tried every trick in the book, but still had no idea how to attract women. I was starting to give in to despair, and believed that I would never find happiness or love.
For me, success only came when I gave up worrying about how to attract women. Instead, I worried about how to be happy with myself. I dedicated myself to the principle that happiness comes not from outside, but from inside. I examined all of the factors in my life, all of the things that I cared about and the things that made me happy. I deepened and enriched my friendships, pursued my creative hobbies, and got in to see a therapist to tackle my low self-esteem. It worked wonders. Now I do not have to worry about how to attract women. I have a beautiful girlfriend who loves me very much. Once I thought of myself as attractive, women began to feel the same way about me. The rest is history.
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